Pussy Expenses

by Anna M Erickson

“It’s a man’s world but pussy makes the world go round” — A$AP Rocky

Pussy is the most powerful force on our planet. There, I said it. While many run around looking for money and political power to run our world, there is something we often overlook. I always say that “everything is related to economics and politics,” which it is. But money and power are things you have to go out and get or have been gifted—take the Kennedy family or the Heinz family. 

What innately has power? Pussy. 

When I was seventeen, I wrote an article titled “Why Girls Should Self-Pleasure Before Losing Their ‘Virginity.’” This piece was initially for my eyes only as its content was, well, provocative. Admittedly, I was selfishly scared that if I were to publish it that people would think I was some crazy sex-addict girl who passes her time masturbating in her room. But to this day, I have yet to find another article like it, as the celebration of women’s sex lives is often omitted from conversation. So, after two years of it sitting on the shelf, a ton of self growth, and watching Brené Brown’s Call To Courage like a million times, I decided to just do it (thank you Phil Knight).

Earlier this year it finally came out, and this article was the one that ultimately landed my spot at Lithium. So, hey—not too shabby after all. 

The article is rooted in the belief that rewiring women’s approach to virginity could change the world as we know it. Too often women forgo exploring their sexual preferences and their bodies until after their first time. Meanwhile, for men, it’s nomalized to talk about sex, desires, and preferences before their first orgasm. If women were to self-pleasure before losing their “virginity” it could result in women forming healthier and more personal relationships with their own sexuality. So, instead of sexual exploration starting with virginity loss, and therefore already being imprinted by that experience, it could start before any third party(ies) comes in. A woman could become more conscious of her body and preferences early on, perhaps ultimately resulting in more pleasurable experiences when the time comes. 

After finally publishing the article, I received many questions regarding the “how” in all of this. Like, “I understand the importance of self-pleasure now, but how exactly do I do that?” So today I’m writing to explore exactly that: how women can self-pleasure in a way which facilitates a healthy relationship with their own sexuality.

Luckily, the options are endless. Every woman can explore self-pleasure in a different way; whatever makes her feel most in touch with her own sexuality offers a way to explore her body and the sensations it enjoys. Self-pleasure can be something as concrete as masturbation—which has been so popularized other methods are often forgotten—or it could be mean fantasy journaling, enjoying a sensual massage, naked journaling, skinny dipping, taking a belly dancing class, yoni steaming, taking a trip to Babeland, or buying something just because it makes you feel sexy. Pussy Expenses: when you buy something because your pussy just wants it.

Now, I want to zero in on Pussy Expenses because I truly think it is one of the most nuanced and engaging ways you can honor your pussy — no matter where you are, who you're with, and what time of day. The magic in Pussy Expenses is exactly that, unlike many other methods, it takes no planning and can be incorporated into your daily life. 

For example: feel like getting a latte because you desire it? Mark it under Pussy Expenses. Feel like picking up a new mascara while on your CVS run to honor your magnificence? Just treat yourself! Feel like buying some fancy lingerie for no reason but to feel sexy, and, like, why not? Just do it, your pussy wants it. 

So, why Pussy Expenses? And maybe you’re still a little confused about how buying a mascara is going to help you become more in touch with your sexuality. So hear me out:

You are a treasure, a miracle, sacred, precious, radiant, valuable: a vessel of love. Your joy matters. Your happiness matters. Your pleasure matters. Pleasure is part of joy, joy is part of love, and love is the magic that makes everything worth it. Just as a holy altar requires upkeep and maintenance to feel sacred, so does the woman’s body. Remember, an holy altar is innately sacred, but to feel it, it needs self care. And so do you. 

Attending to our desires, needs, and pleasures is not indulgent or irresponsible, but necessary to feel sacred and connect to the sacred in yourself. 

Pussy Expenses is about that connection. It's about connection to our life force—pussy—because if we are not—we cannot stand in our full radiance. Being radiant means being “turned on.” “Turned on” about life, about living, about being us. “Turned on” by the idea of our own beauty, “turned on” by the knowing of our own preciousness, “turned on” by the knowing that we are so fucking magical. 

 Engaging in the practice of Pussy Expenses it will do a couple of things. First, and most importantly, you will begin to think about your pussy, and what it wants, on a more regular and ultimately daily basis. This is self care. The real self care. Think about this: when was the last time you asked your pussy what it wants? The creator of all human life, is quite literally the master creator, and is ready and willing to create even more—if you begin to listen. 

What did we say before? What innately has power? Pussy. Making it the greatest of all time. Tune into this power that you have and the more regularly you do, the more you begin to utilize its power. Time to stop putting this resource on the shelf. Let’s untap it. 

It wasn’t until the past year that I put this into practice, but I have found it also keeps me feeling sexy, has inspired me to have more fun, and helped me get more in tune with my intuition.

By keeping my pussy’s desires in mind I’ve been able to tap into what I find pleasurable within my life. Not just sexually, but regarding everything. The clitoris contains about 8,000 nerve endings, meaning it is the powerhouse of pleasure! All pleasure! So, remember: pleasure isn't just a luxury, but quite literally a part of us. And neglecting a part of ourselves does a disservice to our whole being.

Through honoring my body and taking care of it, I’ve been feeling sexier than ever. It's like the feeling after going to the hair salon—yeah, you're still dealing with the same hair you had before, but something just hits differently after taking extra care of it. Plus, it’s literally so much fun. I find that Pussy Expenses is such a playful term and the practice of it is just as playful. Why not just lean into the play and pleasure?

Lastly, Pussy Expenses have helped me become in in-tune with my own intuition. Pussy has never led me to do something I regret, or buy something I regret; it’s just never let me down. So, through building that trust, I’ve also begun to trust myself more. Which, at the end of the day unlocking the power of female intuition is one of the most powerful tools women have.

Regardless of where you are in the timeline of your own sexual exploration, allow Pussy Expenses to enter the picture. We all could use more glam and radiance in our life; we deserve the fun, and we are the pleasure. Remember: pussy makes the world go round, so give her a round of applause, give her some real love, or give her a new mascara—at the very least.